I’m feeling weary after today’s efforts. It was challenging but OK till I got the call about a contact visit for one of my little guys. It was on my radar, but I never know until the last minute if his family will show. So I always wait until I get the call before I lock things in.
I got the call. This would be the first time for him to meet his brand new baby brother. They were in the car park when we arrived and as I walked with my two little ones towards the group, I could see mum holding the new baby. I waved at mum and smiled. Before I had even had a chance to say hello, I got a sharp verbal hit from a very angry grandmother who was clearly looking for a target and thought I would do.
The situation is too complicated to go into, but let’s just say there are three beautiful little brothers with three different carers and today was the first time they had met each other. Parents who can’t get themselves together enough to be parents, who keep on having babies when they can’t care for them. Anger, hurt, blame, ignorance, desperation, incarceration, addiction.
It’s all just terribly, exhaustingly sad and today…it got to me.
I’m trying Johnny!
love many trust few 
Visits are so hard for everyone. You’re right – this stuff is “terribly, exhaustingly sad.” Foster parenting is hard stuff.
Thank you Jasmine. I’m sure you know only too well! I just wasn’t quite mentally prepared for what happened yesterday. Feeling better today, so thanks for your support, much appreciated.
Sad for the kids – brought into this world to those who are not prepared for them.
I’m not sure if it’s the extended exposure to this side of life, but it seems to happen much too frequently. It’s just tragic.
It really is. A tough job I’m sure – thanks for taking it on.
I’m sorry that you were made the target when you didn’t deserve to be.
Me too! I didn’t have my protective shield up 🙂
It breaks my heart like nothing else. The position it forces the kids into, the position you’re forced into. How do you cope with this?
I’ve had to front up to some pretty challenging situations – but always try to have some compassion for the parents. I can usually find a way to connect & build a relationship. I just don’t understand why there’s so many wonderful people who would love to have kids and can’t, and the addicted, mentally ill etc are populating at a phenomenal rate – that does NOT make sense!
I’m so sorry. 😦 Sorry for you and for the boys. As I’ve said before, I don’t know how you do this with such grace, but I’m so grateful there are people in the world like you. ((((you))))
How lovely it is to hear from you – silent one! Thanks for the kind words and the hugs.
I am so relieved that this scenario never played out for me. It is so sad that often, instead of focusing on getting their children back, they focus on others and try to cast blame and anger. It does no one any good. Of course, knowing that the problem is theirs doesn’t make it easier to handle when they want to spill it out on you.
That is so true! Despite that its not easy to stand there and cop abuse from someone who has never even met you before. I think it was the thought of having to deal with this family member for years on end that really got to me. Thanks for your understanding!
I’m nominating you for the Liebster award. It’s an award for up and coming blogs with less than 200 followers (which I don’t even know if that’s true for you) and I think you should win. Because you’re liebster.
Oops-http://pagesonadoption.wordpress.com/2013/05/07/liebster/
I have a friend that used to do this kind of work and she said it broke her heart and got her mad all at the same time. Take care:)
Thanks! Feeling much better after all this. There’s a lot going on behind the scenes here so thanks for your kind thoughts.