Mothering Day

Mother’s Day is almost upon us here in Australia. My mother’s day is slightly different to the one most mummies have. It involves cards and presents for the three birth mothers and one grandmother of my kids, plus something for my own mother.

is this what it’s all about?

Most people don’t know this, but it’s really hard to find the right kind of card for a birth mum. All the messages just don’t suit the situation, so I try to stick to the basics – I LOVE YOU – seems to fit the bill the best. That’s because it’s true, even though the kids don’t really know it at this point. It’s also something these mums need to hear.

don’t sit on her!

I get to care for and love these little honeys every day, I get to feel their love, I get their kisses, I get to see them reach their milestones and day by day, to grow up. The least I can do is to be generous to their bio mums on this day.

So I’ve sent off a mothers day package to one mum who is in the big house with lots of photos and a card. I’m taking one of them to see his mum at her detox centre in the morning. I hope this will give her the strength and courage she needs to continue. And my third will be sleeping over at his grandparents and his mum will see him while he is there.

Tomorrow morning I won’t be sad because no one is letting me sleep in or making me breakfast in bed. I’m grateful. I’m thankful. I’m honoured to be a mother to these boys.

One of the very early posts I wrote when I started this blog was called I Can Live With That and this is what I wrote back then:

My 4 year old has autism. He came into my care when he was seven weeks old and the first thing we did together was go to the ophthalmologist where I was told he was totally blind.

We’ve been through a lot together and every Mother’s Day (all four of them), even though he’s supposed to be making me breakfast in bed and bringing me presents that he made himself (yeah, yeah yeah, I know…he’s 4!), I thank him and give him extra special hugs and kisses, because this little boy has made me a mother. He has done what I couldn’t do myself.

Enjoy your Mothering Day mummies. Thank you boys xxx


8 thoughts on “Mothering Day

  1. It is wonderful that you make each birth family feel so valued, assist in their recovery, build their esteem and keep them connected to their children. We think of our children’s birth family often. We aso give thanks to the beautiful foster mothers who did the hard yards of all those nightly feeds, who loved and cherished our children enabling them to have a healthy start in life.

    • All of these people are our village aren’t they? We’re spread out, some don’t even know each other’s names but we’re all intricately connected to these children. I know that your beautiful embracing of your children’s story will only help them to be happy people. Happy Mother’s Day Ruth!

  2. Rose, you have always been a mother to many even before beginning fostering. Think of all the bands and musicians you nurtured, think if all your friends including myself who you have given wisdom, advice and ongoing mentorship to! Think of all the people and young families particularly you have loved and been there for in indigenous communities in Australia when they have needed you the most. You have always been a wise woman who has mothered those around her and is now funneling her incredible knowledge and love to a few lucky foster children. Lots of Love xxx

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